“Let’s just be friends”, are the most dreaded words in English language for nice guys. I can already hear you guys saying, “but I really like this girl and she really likes me”. Well, getting out of the friend zone is never an easy task. It can be downright tricky, but that doesn’t mean it’s impossible.
There are a few things you can do to get yourself out of the friend zone but it’s important to remember that key is the prevention of landing in the friend zone in the first place. Getting out of the friend zone is no easy task because it will take time, emotional toughness, and a bit of groundwork. However, if you play your cards right you have pretty good chance of coming out on the winning in the end.
1. Do not become a friend when you first meet a woman. When women label you as a “nice guy”, what they really mean that you are a beta male. In addition, when women say some guys are “jerks” and “bad boys”, what they really mean those guys are alpha males. The biggest difference between alpha and beta males is that alpha males know what they want and they will not compromise about it. On the other hand, beta males will compromise, or even worse, don’t know what they want. Therefore, instead of acting like a woman’s buddy when you first meet her, act like a guy whom she would want to date.
2. Accept Your Status As A Friend. The first thing to do once you find yourself in the friend zone is to accept your status as a friend. This is such an important thing to do when you’re put in the friend zone. The reason why you should accept your status as a friend is because responding by acting hostile or depressed will only work against you. If you take rejection from a girl personally, you’re basically telling her you do believe you’re not good enough for her, which conveys a total lack of confidence. Any girl can tell you that low confidence is very unattractive. You also have to remember that there are many reasons why a girl puts you in the friend zone that have nothing to do with you.
3. The next step in how to get out of the friend zone is to lay some groundwork. When a girl puts you in the friend zone, she passes you up and keeps her eyes open for other guys. If you stay around and keep pursuing her, you’ll come off as needy, pathetic, and maybe even creepy. So if she’s looking for other people to date, in order to level the playing field, you should be looking for other people to date too. This does two important things. It makes you less available to her as well as makes you more desirable in her eyes.
4. Next, remove your self from the friendship for some time. Stop hanging out with her, but instead, become a really busy guy who doesn’t have much time to hang out. This should come naturally since you are dating other girls. Stop calling her, but instead, let her call you and return her calls after a couple of days. Put simply, you should stop being the guy who is always there for her. After dating different women for a couple of months, you should then make a decision about your friend. You can either choose to remain friends or to try to develop a relationship. When you do see her again, treat her like a woman that you want to date, not like a long lost buddy.
If you can’t get out of friend zone with her, don’t sweat it. You’ll have other dating prospects and can move onto the next girl without missing a beat. Now go out there and break some hearts.
